In all this I've been plunged into a world I didn't know existed. Just like becoming a parent, my existence is somehow different now. I am perceived differently. I spend my time differently. I am around different people. My experiences are uniquely different.
And along with all that, I've found that I'll get one of eight basic statements from people when they learn that I am looking for a job. They mean well, but — now being on the other side — I find that these impact me in ways I've never expected before.
Following are eight statements I've been typically hearing:
- "I am glad at least I've got a job." (Good for you! Too bad for me.)
- "How's the job search going?" (Great. That's why I'm still looking.)
- "Don't worry, the economy will pick up." Or "Something will come along soon." (You mean, my livelihood is dependent on luck or good fortune.)
- "You need to stay confident, because recruiters can pick up if you're down or desperate." (Great. I feel better already.)
- "There are plenty of jobs at (a particular listing, online postings, some organization)." (Do you even know what I do? Do you even care?)
These last three, on the other hand, have been the most uplifting and helpful comments I've received during this time:
- "If you need anything, please let me know."
- "I'm here, if you ever want to talk." Usually followed by, "I've been there myself."
- "(Let me have you resume.) I'll (check/know of/ask) if there is any need where I work (or know of) that matches what you do."